Monday, August 29, 2011 | By: Meety

Square peg in a round hole


She picked up the triangular peg, and tried to fit it into the round hole.. not working.. she frowns and turns it to another angle, and tries to push it in again.... no luck... another angle.. and still not working...  She looked around and found the remaining pegs, she picked up the square one this time, though it did go a little in, a part of it was still sticking out ... she knew something was wrong.. she tapped and turned and tried... and failed again.. she tried another shape which wouldn't fit in either.. I thought she would give up this time around... she luckily picked up the round one this time... she had that smile of satisfaction as she slid this one into the hole.... as I watched my little niece play this simple game... another thought crossed my mind...

Finding true love is just like above. When we start liking someone, we feel they are the right one for us. We presume that we would fit perfectly into each others lives. As we get closer to that person, we realize a lot of differences, which would lead us to the fact that we in fact do not fit into each others life. Some people give up in life, at the first sign of incompatibility or break up. Others move on and search for the right one, going through the entire ordeal again and maybe sometimes over and over again. 

Some of us, try and fit into the wrong hole, expecting time to fill in the gaping holes in the relationship. Some others expect themselves or their partners to change slowly with time and mold  into the  desired shape. That hardly works most of the time.. and more often, some would prefer to convince themselves that things are fine... Finally there are the kinds, who do not lose hope, and continue to work on their pursuit of love. They succeed in the end, and they do find that one person who would fit in perfectly, into their life.... as a part of their life.

I know a lot of people who ridicule others who keep trying for that perfect person. They mark them as fools, who doesn't seem to learn their lessons despite the pain each break ups inflicts on them. They are  are termed as non-adjusting and considered to be people who hold themselves in high regard. I personally regard such people with high esteem. 

At least they do not get into a relationship expecting themselves or their partner to change over time. I admire their passion for true love.. and their trust in that person whom they have not yet met... I know there is genuine love and trust in other cases as well.... but there is an undefinable feeling that makes my heart flutter when I see such people succeed in their quest for true love... Sigh!!!



14 Thought(s):

Insignia said...

Yeah what you say is all true.

Few try in vain to change their loved ones. Thats not love but selfishness. Others look for love to be happy; happiness is within; no one can give you.

Love completely and with passion even if it hurts; thats when you live life completely :)

Pythoroshan said...

i liked both ur view and insignia's opinion...

"their trust in that person whom they have not yet met"... that trust comes with so many insecurities..especially in a land like ours where our nature/future can be decided by horoscopes over personalities.. it is always heartening to see people stay strong amongst that insecurity.

its always a great feeling to see a love story end happily.. gives a warm feeling in the heart.

hope and love said...

cute..:)

sawan said...

like the way its written :)

Meety said...

@Insignia : True... well said lady :)
@Roshan : Yes.. and the so called 'horoscope ghost' has been haunting me from quite sometime...
@Hope and love : Thank You!!
@Anil : :D Thanks pal

Pythoroshan said...

Have seen the rotten side of the 'horoscope ghost' too in my life as parents are aa fida for the horrorscope.

For what it's worth, this blogpost has more sense and logic to a successful marriage than any beads falling across a board with your nakshatram drawn across it :)

Meety said...

True.. and I know thats the most sensible approach you can give when it come to marriages.. but it is indeed an impossible task to convince your parents to stop concentrating on those beads hat call across the mystic board.. phew!!

Pythoroshan said...

Haha..there are so many examples I can give u regarding the ridiculousness of the belief in horrorscopes..I'll suffice with this one.

In 2009, I was bedridden for a couple of months with an injury to the nerve of the leg. Couldn't move/sleep/turn cos the nerve would hit d bone and give me a major "OUCHY".. in between all this, parents went to astroman and he says "no, there's no sickness in his horoscope. He's fine"
Parents actually came back relieved and told me all's fine and I can get up now !! My horoscopes fine :s

Parents will be parents in the end.

Meety said...

How about this?? when I had this desire to own a two-wheeler.. my mom came back from the astrologer and said.. you may buy a bicycle but not a bike.. cuz as per your charts.. you are not supposed to ride a two wheeler with a motor.. but without it.. yes... now where does the existence of motor come into a picture.. when the so called rules of astrology was created at a time when engines were yet to be invented??? ridiculous isn't it??

Anonymous said...

astrology is a science ,but then again you act like you know it all so what can anybody say.Stick to your single dimension childish romantic posts.

Meety said...

@Anonymous : Well my dear.. no offences meant... but science can also go wrong at times...you must've already got it form the above comments.. N bout my posts.. sorry to say but I write what I want to.. as this is supposed to be my place... if you're not liking it then you are free to hop to better places listed under the 'I like their place' section :)

Dr Roshan R said...

hey, just wondered ... u still alive ? Loooooong time since we had any posts..

Meety said...

Ah well.. yeah its been loong.. my employer decided to leave me with absolutely NO time for pleasure.. for the past few months... so was on a sabbatical from blogosphere ;-)

Ugri said...

Lovelyyy!!
Well said!